What
humans really want..?
What human beings really want?
Money, health, sex, good looks and good physique… Not really, as a matter of fact human beings
look for only one thing- 'assurance'. It seems that humans are more desperate
to get assurance rather than getting the actual thing, for happiness is often
misconstrued as guarantee. And because of this most tension in this world is
caused not by actual incidents but at the junctures where this assurance seems
to be diluted.
An event in which people go crazy
making preparation for it seems to be the most important day in one’s life-
marriage. Marriage essentially union of
two people, irrespective of any culture is a pompous and much awaited occasion
all over the world. Logically, the day when you discover and find someone to
love and be loved should be the happiest day of your life. But people feel more
gratified on the day of marriage instead. Conventional marriages consists of
rituals, wherein the bride and the groom enter in to a contract or a vow in front of
all whom they know and declare to be faithful and committed to each other. Ultimately,
it’s the assurance that is what one is deriving out of the whole ceremony which
makes the occasion momentous for them.
Before reaching the stage of
marriage, there seems to be an emotional war in orthodox families. The grown-up
kid has now found a compatible partner to be with. But this doesn't convince
the parents for them it is to move out of their comfort zone of not
following the traditional way. And they
back their opposition in the name of the caste, tradition, religion, horoscope
and even go to the heights of giving haphazard logics as if the nubile at this age has hormonal problems
because of which he has started his puberty late by ten-fifteen years because according to them the feeling which he has towards his partner is nothing but mere infatuation. Do you really think somebody’s feelings are a negotiable
item? Is it really for the
happiness of the nubile that this distress is created?
Not to disrespect figures like
parents but it is certainly not for the happiness of the child! People at any
cost want to avoid any kind of anticipated scorn from their peers for their
pride lies in being agreeable to their community members which gives them a
feeling of highly acceptable and valued people of their society. This prestige is
built upon not on the foundations of one’s own attitude and deeds but on the approval
of theirs by the other members of the society. By convincing the child to
follow the convention approved by their society the parents want to secure the
social needs of their mind. Now the assurance to be able to derive the same mental
satisfaction of being a recognized and responsible identity in the society is at
stake, which brings out this kind of ‘reaction’ in the name of future concern
of the nubile’s life. Pride is maintained by dignity and not
acceptability!
Almost every person at some point
must have encountered the question- why do you want to pursue this particular
professional course? And the answer to this is always that the flair or forte
of yours for the course made you decide to choose it. If we really think it’s
not difficult for most of us to admit that we choose a career whose
professionals are currently in high demand and hence compensated amply. Because
the financial assurance of your future it gives is so strong, you never explore
for your real career-match.
For humans assurances in every
facet of life give a picture of secured future. Because of this aspect of human
nature, most time of man is spent in thinking about the future and becoming
anxious. Only if you live in present you
would rescue one from remaining preoccupied with future concerns. And thus few
activities like playing, watching movies, drinking, etc. that cease your
thoughts in present makes them the most sought out pursuits.
At times when people become
frustrated with their worries they often exclaim to take ‘sanyas’ – salvation.
However, the much misinterpreted word sanyas doesn't always mean to forsake the
world and live in isolation. Essentially, sanyas is living life free from worries related to future events or past regrets. This happens when you live in the moment
that has your physical presence-present. One way to achieve this is by stop running
behind things with a motive of looking for guarantees in life. From the moment you leave
behind thoughts evaluating certainties, you are in bliss.
Moreover, if you always ensure
that you stay in your comfort zone you will close doors for the surprise
elements of life making it monotonous and unadventurous. Leave worries to let surprises enliven your way and wish yourself: A
happy independence day!